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Real Food on a Real Budget : : Taryn of Wooly Moss Roots

By Tricia on March 21, 2014 in Real Food on a Real Budget, real food/real budget

Cutting up beet greens to put in our soup.

How do we feed ourselves and our families healthy meals without spending a fortune? I think many of us are in the same boat, wondering the same thing. When it comes to how my family spends our humble income… to us: healthy food is the most important thing that we spend our money on. So first we always try to cut back spending in other areas of our life so we can spend more on the most important part: good food. We’ll happily purchase our clothing secondhand, hang our laundry to dry, and heat our house with wood. But even with that, we still need to keep our food spending within our budget. So how do we do that exactly? Firstly, we make all our meals from scratch. Three meals a day. We don’t buy food in boxes. And we save so much money that way! I’ve heard it said that if you want to eat healthy foods from the grocery store: shop the perimeter (where the fresh foods are) and avoid the middle (where the boxed and packaged foods are.) I think the same thing goes for saving money. In our family, we focus on buying whole foods from the earth and nutrient dense foods. I think your money goes much further that way, in the long run. If you buy a boxed snack, it might make your stomach feel full for a little while, but how long will it last you before you need another snack again? Empty food is a waste of money because it doesn’t give your body the nourishment that it needs and you’ll end up wanting more. Let’s say, for example, you choose a hard boiled egg or an avocado for your snack- it will carry you much further and end up being a much better use of your money. And speaking of grocery stores- a great way to stay within your budget is to write your list before you go and also to have an idea of how much you’d like to spend. I don’t always keep track of how much I’m spending when I’m shopping at the grocery store, but when I do and it keeps me from going over my budget. Sometimes I bring our list along when money is especially tight and tally it up as I go. If you go without your list, you’ll probably end up buying more. When you’re shopping for vegetables that are priced by the pound, like broccoli for example: choose the ones with the shortest stems since much of the stem is too fibrous to eat anyway. (You can prepare that part as well and feed it to your animals, we give those to our chickens steamed.) Or if the vegetables are priced by the bundle (like beets often are)- go for the largest bundles. These things are obvious and very simple, but how often do we take the time to slow down and do these simple money-saving steps while we’re in a hurry at the store?

There are things we enjoy that are not the most economical, but if our overall food purchasing is (and we make lots of things ourselves), than it allows for our occasional “treats.”

One thing that took some creativity for our family was how to eat on a budget after we had drastically changed our diet (to a hunter-gatherer style diet.) We stopped eating grains, legumes, sugar, and dairy. We couldn’t rely on milk from our goats anymore or filling our pantry with dried grains or beans. Instead of grains on the side with some vegetables in the mix, every meal included fresh vegetables and fresh foods, which we were afraid would make us go broke. But since the dietary changes made our bodies feel so much better, we knew the challenge was worth finding a solution to. We discovered we could buy 15 pound bags of organic carrots at the local grocery store that were constantly on sale for around $12. They were for juicing and when we checked out in line people often asked if we had horses and their jaws would drop when we replied that the carrots were for us. “You eat all of those carrots?” Yes, we do. Carrots in soup. Perhaps some meat, greens, and carrots for breakfast. We never have any problem eating up the carrots.

Where we enjoy spending our food money more than the grocery store, is at the local farmer’s market. In addition to feeling good about our hard-earned money going to hardworking local farmers providing a valuable service to their community, we’ve also done a lot of trading at the farmer’s market. Since we have a booth with our handmade items at the art market right next to the farmer’s market, it makes trading pretty convenient that way. My husband Jeff is a woodworker and has carved several signs for local farms, which we have traded for food. A few times we traded a farmer some cabbage in exchange for homemade sauerkraut. Trades for local food have been a huge blessing for our family and we’ve been immensely grateful for each and every one. I know farms around our area that welcome people to work on their farm in exchange for food. What a wonderful idea! Make connections in your community and at your local farmer’s market and you never know what kind of incredible opportunities might open up for you. Get creative! You might even get bulk discounts if you buy more at once and preserve it. Since friends and neighbors know that our family is willing to work, they’ve shared windfall apples, pears, and more with us because they know we’ll actually use them and they won’t go to waste. Apples that are not the best for keeping can always be made into applesauce. And if you harvest things in season, when they are abundant at farms around you, you’re more likely to get a better deal. We’ve picked strawberries, blueberries, peaches, apples, plums, and more, ourselves so that we could save money. Checking out the u-picks available in your area is well worth your time and it’s something enjoyable that your whole family can do together. (Plus, picking it yourself is a lot more memorable than simply buying the same thing somewhere.) There’s a farm we know that has a sale at the end of the growing season and we’ve been able to get incredible deals: stocking up on onions, winter squash, and more for the winter. There’s no better feeling than watching the shelves fill up with jars of canned and dried food, and seeing the freezer and fridge fill up too. When the growing season has passed and it’s cold outside, you’ll sure enjoy your dessert of canned peaches (a taste of sunshine) while you’re nice and cozy inside!

And the best place of all to get your food? The garden. We grow as much of our own food as we’re able to and make an effort to produce more of our own food each year. There are so many benefits to having a garden besides saving money: time in nature, exercise, fulfillment, and plus: gardening is just good for the soul. Even when my husband Jeff had a full time job (or a few at a time), he somehow still managed to make time to have a garden because gardening is just in his bones and it brings him so much joy. If you don’t have the space to garden or there are other reasons, there is a wonderful way to produce your own fresh greens in your kitchen: and that’s sprouting. You don’t even need to have a sunny location. You can do it very inexpensively- with just jars and a sprouting lid (or cheesecloth.) We didn’t end up doing sprouts often enough that way so our family eventually decided to invest in a sprouting machine for sprouts made easy. For very little money we are able to have fresh, nutritious greens growing right in our own kitchen. Sprouts rival vegetables in terms of nutrition and take very little effort to grow.

Hard boiled duck eggs.

Besides gardening, you can save lots of money by raising your own chickens for eggs. We decided to do an egg tally and discovered that even with feeding our chickens a high quality, organic feed, we were still getting eggs in our backyard for an incredible bargain: only $2.88 per one dozen eggs. Talk about nutritious food on a budget! We’ll probably be getting an even better deal in the warmer months when they lay more. Of course that doesn’t take into account other costs of keeping chickens, but regardless: we’re saving lots of money by keeping chickens and gathering eggs in our own backyard! Many towns and cities allow a few backyard chickens.

When our ancestors ate meat, they never let anything go to waste and always ate the whole animal. One chicken can give you many meals. We’ve gotten great deals on stewing hens (old laying hens) from our friends at Deck Family Farm. (Slow cooked in the crock pot will make tough meat tender.) Besides the meat, you can make broth with the bones. No bones go to waste in our house. Every chicken bone, beef bone, lamb bone, or anything else- gets made into broth. (If we don’t have enough to make a whole batch of broth, we’ll save them up in a bag in the freezer until we do.) Broth is so nutritious and incredibly healing for the digestive system. It’s also an important source of calcium in our family, since we don’t consume dairy. Another wonderful thing about broth is that it acts as a protein sparer. So if you have to limit the amount of meat you are able to purchase, then broth will help the protein go further. And making broth is easy. At the local butcher, grass fed beef soup bones are $1.98 a pound. They are in high demand, sometimes selling out. (The marrow bones are especially popular, for a bit more at $2.98 a pound.) I consider soup bones a very good use of our money. I might order 20 pounds at a time and keep them in the freezer, bringing some out each time I make a batch in the crock pot. We make all our soups with a base of bone broth.

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Jeff’s favorite way to 0have beef broth is by sauteing onions and making french onion soup. There are other great deals at our local butcher, Long’s Meat Market. They have local grass fed ground beef for $3.98 a pound! (If you buy 10 pounds at a time it’s an even better deal: $3.58 per pound!) It’s completely grass fed and organic. Organic ground beef at our local grocery store costs double that amount and it’s not even grass fed or as high of quality. I think that price is even less than what they charge for run-of-the-mill, icky, factory farm stuff at our grocery store. And another great deal at the butcher? Liver! I know, I know, it usually elicits a lot of response. Grass fed beef liver costs $2.98 a pound. You won’t find a more economical way to get that much nutrition, anywhere. (I’ve shared our secret for eating liver in this post.) Our ancestors always went for the organ meats first because they knew that’s where the most nutrients were concentrated. If you want to eat the healthiest foods possible- organ meats are where it’s at.

We don’t buy cooking oils from the store, we make our own oils to cook in. We get pastured, organic pork fat from our friends at Deck Family Farm and make lard with it. Animal fats are incredibly nourishing and healthful and are stable when cooking at higher temperatures. We occasionally buy olive oil to use raw on salads, since it’s not a good oil for heating, and try to make it last as long as possible. For salads, we make our own salad dressings. We use either oil and vinegar or sometimes instead of the vinegar we use sauerkraut juice or pickle juice leftover from our ferments. It’s delicious and full of probiotics. We never throw out the leftover brine from our ferments! It’s too precious.

Our three year old son Bracken showing me his hand covered in turmeric, after adding it to our meal (and thinking it was very funny.)

What it comes down to: the more you do yourself, the more money you will save. Yes, it’s a lot more work. But you’ll be healthier and that is so worth it. Plus, good food is one of life’s greatest pleasures and homemade just tastes so much better. If you have children, you’ll be teaching them important skills that will help them for the rest of their life. Every time they watch you cook a meal, pick berries for the freezer, or bake something in the oven, it’s making an impression on them. You might can and fill up your pantry with jars for the winter, saving you lots of money in the long run. But don’t forget that even when you aren’t able to save in the big ways like that, you can still save in little ways. You can eat your leftovers right away. (If you leave them for too long, you’re less likely to eat them. Or if you start getting sick of them, you can freeze some for later.) You can eat your nutritious beet greens (and not just the beet roots) instead of throwing them out. If you have chickens, you can feed them your kitchen scraps. Little things add up! You can learn about wild foods and harvest those for free. Our family planted a nettles patch, which gives us super nutritious greens for much of the year, and we love taking a stroll in the woods to search for mushrooms. When it comes down to it, it’s less about how much money you have and more about how creative you can get!

Tricia here: Thank you Taryn!! That was amazing information 🙂 I miss having duck eggs and I second you on the big bag of organic juicing carrots.

Hi all, I have been AWOL in Florida at our homestead. I had a last minute opportunity to come home and seized it with both hands. We have been here enjoying every minute of warmth and being all together again. My grandson Lewie is all I can think of so I hope you forgive me for cutting and running on this blog for a few days… what’s that you say? 10 days? Oh dear, I hope you didn’t worry. I will not be here tomorrow but will start the Pinterest challenge again next Saturday. I will be back home midweek and back here to share our trip with you.

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sparing the rod

By Tricia on March 10, 2014 in Natural mothering

I have now been a parent for over 21 years. No clue how so much time has gone by but it has. Anyone who has a few children also knows that God makes them all different. What works with your first child will almost never work with the second, or third. Throughout the years, we have settled on a parenting style that while being very different from many other families, has worked well for us. Our style is this, respect the child.

Respect is a very big word. The dictionary says it is a feeling of deep admiration for someone or something elicited by their abilities, qualities, or achievement.

Do we admire our children for their abilities, qualities or achievements? Some may but too much of that and you end up a child who believes that the planets align around him. In our family, we respect each child for the dignity that each person is given by his creator. God has created each and every one of his children out of love and he respects us enough to give us free will to either love him or not.

How does this correlate to raising our children? In my circles I have had friends who are homeschoolers, send their children to private or public school, are conservative, liberal, religious, atheist, environmentally conscious, material driven etc. In those families I have seen the good and the bad. The biggest debate among these is the rod. You probably know of the rod from your own childhood when even the neighbor was allowed to scold the child who trampled on their daisies or anyone’s grandma could tell you to stop what you were doing that instant. The proverbial rod spoken of in the bible or the rod used by your very own parents. In my case, it was a shoe or belt. It is one of the things that as a parent, I have gone back and forth on not really sure which way is the right way.

In some ways I look at my own childhood and recall being spanked often. I see where it may have helped to teach me some respect towards other or perhaps instill authority. We respected our elders, any of them even if they weren’t directly in charge of us. It was just the way. We always greeted adults and we looked at them in the eyes. We did what we were told and stayed out of the way when we were not needed generally playing for hours and hours outside until being called in for dinner. I also have the memory of feeling bitter resentment for having been spanked out of what sometimes felt like anger. I remember thinking that I would never hit my child once I was a parent.

If I mentally study the families that we know, there are the ones who spank that have produced the most amazing adults. Who love their families and are responsible, contributing members of society. I also know other families who spank that have children who seem respectful and obedient while in front of their charges but take almost delight in getting away with something when they have the chance. These children say “yes maam” and smile when they are asked to do something but it seems they do what they are asked because they must and not because it is the right thing to do. As soon as they can “get away with anything” they do.

On the flip side of this coin, there are those families who do not spank at all believing that they do not have the right to do so just because they are bigger than the child or that they will somehow alienate their child who will no longer love them for the discipline. I have known a few of these families who have wonderful children, who have a gentle way about them and somehow raise families who do what has to be done everyday without the threat of physical violence (can you see the rainbow and hear the birds chirping?). And then there are those who have lost all control of their children and have no clue how to get it back if they ever had it because their children do not listen. They do not respect their parents and do not respect anyone since they have been taught to do what makes them happy.

Please do not take offense to any of these. We are all different and if your family fits into one of these categories, it’s because you are a human who is raising humans who have a fallen nature and we are all trying to do the best that we can.

I have heard many, many times that saying “spare the rod and spoil the child”. It is in the bible. In 21 years of being a momma, I can remember 3 or 4 times when I decided that spanking one of my children was necessary. I have struggled with the idea that I have not parented them correctly because we do not spank. I struggle just like all parents struggle with the idea that something they have done or not done will harm their child from reaching his true potential.

But what if the rod is not really what we are thinking. Who uses the rod that the bible is talking about. I go back to a shepherd. The Good Shepherd who steers his flock as we steer our flock. Then a friend said something that has made me really think. Shepherds do not strike the flock with the rod, they use it to guide the flock to safety, or water or where ever it is they need to flock to go.

Yes, this is what our parenting style is. As soon as one of our babies can understand a few words, we start working with them. We teach them to sit during a meal, to play nice with siblings, to pick up the sock they threw on the floor. Once they are talking we teach them to apologize when they have hurt someone. To stop when we say stop and come to us when we say come. When they are toddlers we introduce them to consequences. Our consequence is usually the wall. I have had little ones who have done something they knew was wrong and have only discovered what they did after finding them standing staring at a wall 🙂 The wall gives them a place to stand quietly and calm down yet it is not a fun place to be. All of our children have had some time with a wall, some more than others. For some all that is needed are a few words of correction. I have had children who crumble just from the knowledge that they have somehow dissapointed us. There are also the children who need more than just words.

One thing I will not do is scream. It does not work. I feel as soon as I start screaming, I am giving away my position as momma. I do not need to scream and have found that when things get really out of control, I whisper. It makes everyone stop because they cannot hear me. If screaming worked, you would not have to do it over and over. No momma, you do not need to scream and your house will be all that much quieter once you stop.

Our greatest advice to people who ask how we get our children to behave is to expect it. We expect our children to respect us and we give them that respect back. We expect them to listen to us because that is the way that God designed the family. They listen to us and we listen to God. The second piece of advice is be consistent. If we say no to Nick who wanted to have another slice of cake, there is no amount of whining or pleading that will ever make me change that no to a yes. If I told my daughter that she would not go to that party she was invited to if her room was not clean, no matter how much I may have wanted her to go and have fun, I assure you, she will not go.

Life is full of consequences. It just is. We must teach our children that everything in life will have a consequence. The safest place to learn about those consequences is at home. If you have fallen into the position of momma doorstep, you can take your authority back. You own it, it is your God given authority. It may not be popular in society these days to impose yourself as the supreme authority in your house because you are the parent but children need us to guide them. It will not make you the cool mom but your child does not need any more friends. They need a parent.

Consequences last way longer than spankings do. They set a pattern than children will remember and can follow. I will add that I love my momma and poppa dearly. I wish I could be with them everyday but that relationship took years to grow. As a child, I did not share my dreams and worries with my parents. I did not have that kind of relationship with them. I want my children to come to me with their thoughts, ideas, struggles and they do. So far, our family has grown in a nurtured environment where we can all depend on each other and share the most important and the most mundane of things. Our children do what is right because we have earned their hearts just as we do what is right because God has earned our hearts.

So we will not spare the rod. We will use that rod to gently guide our children in the way they should go until they can walk without us. We will not strike our children with that rod as our way of discipline but as the shepherd keeps his sheep from falling over a cliff, there may be the day when we may need to spank one of them. We will step back and wait for our anger to subside, we will do it with love and respect.

How do you discipline your children? Where do you think you’ve been successful and where do you think you need a change?